1. Introduction

The title reads like it’s out to flame men, but stay with me. I’m borrowing from Taylor Swift’s Men will let you down. The Eras Tour never will.^[1] And you know what happened next. She met her love, now her husband.

Later she wrote about him: I swore my loyalty to me, myself, and I, right before you lit my sky up.[2]  So men aren’t that bad after all, right?

When we have been carrying wounds and broken hearts from the past, there are moments when the bitterness takes over and we all want to point at a villain, whether it is a man, a woman or someone in particular. But honestly, I do not think people are the main problem.