3. Heads-up

1. My subject:
I respect every ethical choice people make about connections, labels and forms of intimacy. The subject of this series is the design of the app systems themselves, not the choices people make within them.

2. Consent and privacy:
All personal information used in these essays is included with permission from the people involved. I take privacy seriously, which is why I call these personal essays rather than formal qualitative research.

3. Honest limits:
To every survivor of sexual, mental or physical abuse reading this, your pain matters, but I am choosing not to address that subject here because it needs more weight than I can carry.

Even so, I am in the Patient Zero party with you: But if you're sick of him, I got you [...]  If he's killing you, I see you.^[6]

One thing I promise. My essays are not coloured by blind hope about love. Despite all the curses and prayers we have said over these apps, I am doing this work because I believe we all deserve better design and better chances at healthy connections.